Some words of wisdom at age 17 and 15 years later...
In October of 1999 (yikes... that was a while ago), I was given an assignment for Ms. Dodds Social Psychology class:
To write my mission statement.
“I am a.......who believes....”
Who was I at 17? What did I believe? As I read the assignment again years later, I smiled. I was proud, and a little surprised... because what I learned is that these are still my beliefs. Some of them are lessons I ended up learning over and over in different ways. Some of them have evolved ever so slightly with time and experience. Some of them are just really good reminders. All of them are pretty great.... 17 year old Megan had some good insight. I should have listened to her more.
What I believed when I was 17 years old...and what I know to be true 15 years later.
I am a daughter, sister, friend, lover, dreamer, niece, granddaughter, cousin, aunt, student, and confidant. (Add now a creator, an entrepreneur, a free spirit, and developer)
I am a person that believes that:
- True beauty is found on the inside. (Cliché? Yes. True? The most true)
- Honesty, loyalty and dependability are the 3 building blocks of friendship. (Even when it’s hard. Especially when it’s hard. The truest, strongest and best friendships will rise out of this.)
- Taking chances and risking failure makes you a stronger person. (Resilience girl. That’s your word. You’ll see. It’s how you learn, It’s how you love. It’s how you grow.)
- When life doesn’t go as planned it makes things more interesting. (And sometimes devastating. And beautiful. And hilarious. And exciting. And always, always more interesting. The best lessons, stories and memories and people are unplanned.)
- Lying to yourself is one of the worst things you can do. (And you can be pretty convincing. Be careful -it’s just not nice at all. Be nice to yourself.)
- Admitting you lied to yourself is one of the hardest things you can do. (And powerful. You lied, because you wanted something, or to convince yourself it was okay, or it would change, or blah blah blah. It doesn’t matter – admit it and own it girl. Then change it, choose something else. That? That is empowering. )
- A good cry and a hot bubble bath can make you feel better than you think. (Also wine. Crying in the bath with wine. You’ll come out a whole new woman. Trust.)
- Friendship and laughter have tremendous healing qualities. (But for real. Add a pint of beer, or a glass of wine and the power increases. It’s science!)
- You hold the power to change your habits, and bear in mind you will become what you repeatedly do. (Oooh. That’s a good one. Do good things. And be nice to yourself –I’m saying it twice, cause it’s hard to remember sometimes.)
- Everything you do catches up to you in the end, good things and bad things. (#karmabitches. Fill up that karma cup with good stuff. And learn from all of it- or it keeps coming back, and it gets harder and louder and more painful until you do.)
- You have to be comfortable with yourself before you can be comfortable with anyone else. (This one…Took me a loooong time. I think I’ve got it now. )
- It’s good to be a shoulder to cry on, and an advice giver whenever my friends need me. (And to ask when you need them. Because even when you don’t ask, they know... and they will show up—usually with wine, and cupcakes. Especially when you don’t want them to. Because that’s what best friends do. That’s love girl. )
Now. If only I could go back in time and tell my 17 year old self how to maneuver the next 15 years.....
Actually….why spoil all the fun?!